“Don’t let other people’s opinions distort your reality. Be true to yourself. Be bold in pursuing your dreams. Be unapologetically you.”- Dr. Steve Maraboli
Other people’s opinion of you doesn’t matter and will never matter, the only opinion that should matter is your opinion. Don’t get me wrong opinions are great and we all have them. Some opinions are right and useful and the right opinion when shared at the right time can have a positive impact. Opinions can save lives and can have a wonderful outcome but yet most of the time they simply don’t matter especially if they are coming from people that don’t care, that don’t matter, and people that know nothing about you.
Other people’s opinion of you shouldn’t define you because different people will have a different opinion of you. The only opinion that matters and should count is your opinion about yourself. No matter what you do or who you’re or the decisions you make, people will always have something to say. If you allow other people’s opinion to get to you, it will not only hurt you but will end up defining you. You have to remind yourself often that opinions from other people are their reflection, not your reality. You should never allow other people’s opinions of you to influence how you think, feel, and behave.
It’s hard not to get dismayed by intentionally hurtful opinions from other people. It’s easy to think in your mind that those opinions don’t matter and don’t define you, but it’s harder to put into action. It’s hard to suppress your emotions when people have negative things to say about what you do, how you do it, and the decisions you make. Still, it’s important to ignore and focus on yourself and what you want not what other people think. Not only for your sanity but the simple fact that you shouldn’t give other people the power to influence what you do and how you feel. As long as you’re are doing the right thing, you’re happy and you are creating value and impacting the world positively, other people’s opinion of you doesn’t matter.
Reasons Others Opinions of You Don’t Matter
#1 People will always have opinions
People will always have something to say about you and different people will have different things to say about you, therefore, changing yourself and defining yourself based on other people’s opinions will do you no good as there will be different opinions every time.
The world isn’t a perfect place and not everyone is the same, people have different backgrounds and experiences that make everyone who they are. The best thing is to stay true to yourself and do what’s best for you.
#2 People’s opinion comes from a place of insecurity
Most people who have opinions about others people’s life choices do so from a place of insecurity. Most times people like this are lost and are disconnected from themselves thereby they project their insecurity on others.
People who are contented in themselves and happy hardly have opinions about others’ life or decisions. Don’t see such people as horrible people though, they just need to be loved, acknowledged, heard, and seen.
#3 Your self-worth isn’t defined by an approval rating
No matter what opinion people have of you, your self-worth isn’t defined by an approval rating. There is no objective rating scale that allows another person to judge you. They don’t know your story, your trials, and your experience.
However, most time, we define our self-worth by an approval rating. We allow what others say or think about us to influence how we feel about ourselves. The happiness barometer is often influenced by what people say or think. Forget about what people think and focus on yourself alone. The only approval you need is yours.
#4 Their opinion of you don’t describe you, it describes them
How other people see you are mostly a reflection of who they are and not who you’re. If their hearts are pure and good and their intentions are honest they won’t have negative and vile opinions about other people.
#5 They don’t know your journey
One of the reasons other people’s opinions don’t matter is they don’t know what you’re going through, they don’t know where you’re coming from and where you’re headed. Most people judge you base on what they think of you and not what they know and that’s why you shouldn’t let their opinion define you.
#6 People see what they want to see
Just like the saying “people will love you and people will hate you. And none of it have anything to do with you”. No matter how good of a person you’re, and how much you try to please others, you will never be good enough for people that refuse to see the good in you. There will always be someone that have a different opinion about how you live your life and the decisions you make but don’t let it get to you. The most important thing is for you to be yourself, live your life in a way that feels right to you and makes you happy. You should also always remind yourself that people will see what they want to see.
#7 You will never please everyone with your decisions so don’t try
It’s impossible to please everyone no matter how hard you try. Someone is going to be upset and have an opinion of the path you should follow or the direction you should choose.
Different people will have a different opinion on your career, who your friends are, how you dress, and the places you spend your time, your relationship and every other thing. How do you intend to please them all and cater to all their opinions? If you try to please everyone you will end up frustrated and sad. All that matters is doing the best for yourself.
With these few reasons out of a thousand reasons why other people’s opinions don’t matter, I hope you are inspired and empowered to ignore others people’s opinions because they don’t matter. Focus more on you because you’re all that matters.